"I hate being in front of the camera!"
was the answer to my question about why not have a family session. I know, me too! And so do most people I know who are not paid to pose on regular basis.
I was sitting across a mom I recently met and we were candidly discussing the experience of family photography. So I rephrased. "What would force you to do a documentary family session?" She thought about it. "The realization how fast the time goes and all the changes that take place. I just found a video of my daughter when she was three, and she is seven now. It felt like yesterday. And to see her doing her usual things is much more important to me than portraits of her in pretty dresses". This is the important bit.
The time with our kids flies and we mostly don't feel it.
Day by day and week by week. And then there may be a moment of realization that quite a lot of time went by and our kids are taller, bigger, and a bit different. Yes, we take many pictures of them along the way, group selfies, and sometimes even catch them in the act of doing something. But what about preserving more - details like favorite things and places in our homes, intimate moments, funny, happy, sad, routine stuff our lives together are made up of? And how about you being a part of those pictures, share that rectangular or square space so that you become part of the moments that are so important to preserve?
I bet your kids would love to see the younger version of you alongside of them later, being present, involved in the medley of the everyday.
I bet creating this heirloom of memories could beat being uncomfortable in front of the camera for one day.
And now back to hating to be in front of the lens. If this is you, documentary family session is the way to do it. No one will be expected to do anything for the camera. No posing, trying to look a certain way, or behaving according to someone's expectations . The photo session lasts several hours and hopefully the discomfort will gradually dissipate simply because you will stop paying attention while being busy doing a million things you usually do. I can't promise to turn off the "uncomfortable " button inside you, but i hope that that you will simply stop caring what the camera is thinking.